Anxiety Therapy : Attachment Theory

Anxiety Therapy

After every break up or social hardship, you catch yourself asking the same question, “Why are relationships hard?” Whether it is recognizing the same pattern of conflict happening at every workplace. Or if you struggle with trusting your partner. More times than not, it is recognizing how often you find yourself “jumping to conclusions”. 

What does attachment theory seek to answer?

As we get older, we start noticing our needs and wants feel a lot harder to be obtained or expressed to others around us. Understanding the basics of attachment theory provides a foundation to increase one’s insight and awareness around why we care so much about intimacy or lack thereof. It seeks to explain these problems we face around feeling connected to others or lack thereof. It touches on the difficulties we have in relationships. It explains the impact our caregivers have on how we see the world around us. It provides context into how we navigate relationships with friends, romantic partners, family members, and with ourselves.

The primary goal with my work with clients is to help provide them with this context and foundation in order to increase their awareness of answering their own questions. Attachment theory connects the dots around where the struggles originate from; in expressing emotions to others, trusting others, asking for help, and/or coping with worried thoughts is rooted in. You get to learn how one gets an anxious attachment style and what it means to feel worried in being vulnerable to others. Guiding my clients, together we identify how to navigate these relational struggles from understanding them, implementing changes to help regulate their nervous system, build confidence and decrease anxious thoughts.

Ligia Orellana BIPOC & LGBTQ Affirming Therapist in Los Angeles, CA Specializing in Anxiety and Toxic Relationships.

In this series of upcoming posts around anxiety,

I will tap into how attachment is incorporated into therapy; the role of our brain, anxiety being our protector, attachment decoded for the BIPOC population, attachment styles, the healing process, and examples in the media today. I hope that this post helps you gain insight into how attachment theory can be incorporated into therapy if you struggle with worried thoughts within relationships. If you are ready to target this, you can read more about how I can help here and schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation here.

I wish you good vibes in your healing journey!

Ligia Orellana, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist